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Sunshine and clouds

Wednesday, April 18th, 2012

That’s life, isn’t it? Ups and downs. Highs and lows. Today is extreme for me and I hope you don’t mind if I share. I can’t write about sewing. There’s too much big stuff going on.

Well, where to start?

The good is that my daughter earned her gymnasium (high school) place for next year – so in August she’ll start a bilingual programme with a focus on economics and law (neither of which she has the faintest clue about). If she works her butt off and get’s straight through she’ll graduate in 4 years, shortly before she turns 20! She just finished up a really tough 6 month assessment period and as one of only 8 kids in a class of 24, made the grade. We are hugely grateful and proud of her. Plan B was sketchy to say the least and getting to Gymi is a big deal here. She also combined it with full-on puberty and her first boyfriend. You can imagine how the last 6 months has been for the whole family. We all feel wiped out, happy but wiped out.

At the same time as all this has been happening, one of my very dearest friends – a truly inspirational friend – has been coming towards the end of a hard fought eight year battle with cancer. Our kids grew up together, we’ve cried and laughed together for the best part of two decades, she has been a rock and a playmate for me for a very long time. Through my friend I have learned the value of life. I’ve watched someone suffering hugely, but never complaining, always, always taking the positive from every situation, always ready to help anyone and everyone. A really good person with a strong, strong faith. I just came back from the hospital and it looks like there is probably very little time left.

I can’t bear to think how much I’m going to miss my friend, or about her kids and her very, very dear husband, who is struggling to deal with this.

So I guess you understand that today I have a laughing eye and a crying eye and I just can’t write about sewing.



16 Responses to “Sunshine and clouds”

  1. Vreni Says:

    I’m so sorry to hear about your friend. It doesn’t seem fair that a mother is taken away from her family. So sad. On the other hand, congratulations to your daughter; that’s fantastic news.

  2. Susan Ramey Cleveland Says:

    God bless you, Helen. You know I understand about losing friends and loved ones. The sadness and grief are sometimes debilitating. I’ll keep you and your friend and her family in my heart and prayers.
    Congrats to that wonderful daughter. I can just imagine how proud you are.

  3. Katy Says:

    (((((HUGS))))) all round seem appropriate

  4. Stephanie Says:

    Well done to your daughter and wishing her every success. I’m so sorry to hear about your friend, Helen. Cancer is so cruel. Thinking of her and her family, and of you too at this hard time.
    Big hug from France X

  5. Fleur Cotton Says:

    Congratulations to your daughter !

    So sorry to hear about your friend, I hope that you can treasure all the happy memories you had together.

    Sending you best wishes..
    Fleur xx

  6. CarlaHR Says:

    Congratulations to Daughter #2 – that is quite a feat she managed to accomplish (with a lot of support from you).
    So sorry to hear about your friend – I just went through a similar situation – the Swiss born husband of a dear friend lost his battle with cancer on Monday.

  7. Susan Says:

    Oh, what a tough day. How hard to balance the joy and the sorrow that will fill you. Many congratulations to your daughter, and hold the good memories close to you regarding your friend – her family and those memories are the amazing legacy she will leave behind.

  8. Flying Blind Says:

    Congratulations to your daughter – a weight off everyone’s minds.
    I am having an ‘I hate cancer’ day too – found out a friend has stomach cancer yesterday, it kind of puts everything else into perspective x

  9. Nicole Says:

    You must be so proud of your daughter! My very best wishes for continued success and happiness.

    I am so sorry to hear about your friend and her battle with cancer. She is very lucky to have you as a friend to support her through this Helen.

  10. ailsa Says:

    I lost a dear friend too, quite a long time ago now.

    It is absolutely horrible and not fair for any of you involved.

    Take care!

  11. Julie Says:

    I send hugs too, Helen. I pray your friend isn’t in much pain, is at peace, and that the memories of the loving friendship you shared will cover you like a beautiful quilt. And congratulations to your daughter! xxoo

  12. Dianne Neale Says:

    I lost my mum to cancer and it’s so hard to say goodbye. Thingking of you all.

    Oh and well done to your daughter – I betthat’s a weight off your mind.

  13. MelD Says:

    Hugs and thoughts with you on all accounts. As they say, “Freud und Leid liegen nahe beieinander”, but life is there to make us stronger x

  14. diane stanley Says:

    Congratulations to your daughter. I know how much you have been worried about her school the last few months.
    I am so sorry to hear of your friend and pray that your friendship will be a comfort to her family.

  15. Tracey Says:

    How wonderful for your daughter – better than the lottery in that hard work AND a bit of luck were involved. You must be proud (and glad that struggle is over).

    And I’m sorry that your joy (and relief) is tempered with the sadness for your friend.

  16. Lisa Says:

    This is so desperately sad Helen šŸ™ puts all of our other daily niggles into perspective.