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Utterly hopeless

Saturday, February 16th, 2013

I hereby present the sum total of my creative efforts this week…

…the toe of one sock…


(But at least I got that far without running out of yarn!).

To be fair, these are great socks. The yarn is perfect,it’s Kells Sport Merino courtesy of the Three Irish Girls and is unforgettably named ‘If it Ain’t Baroque, Don’t Fix It‘. It’s 100% merino and knits up beautifully densely. These will be very cosy I’m sure. my son will be test driving them this week. I’ll let you know!

This week was a tough one. LOTS to do at work – still working more than I should to sort out the mess I inherited – and coming home and being Mrs Super Housewife….and not sleeping enough. Of course the inevitable happened…and yesterday I spent most of the day wiped out with a migraine. (Which is why there was no blogging – sorry about that!)

Somehow I need to learn to pace myself better. I guess it will come when I get used to being at work again and when I’m over that initial tiredness that always comes with a new job. I can see that I need to learn to slow down and take down time as down time and not try to do a week’s worth of everything in a day. I’m just going to have to accept that some things won’t get done. That will be a hard one. I’ll have to try to switch off the control freak part of me.

What I would like to do, although I don’t know if I’ll actually be able to pull it off, is to make Fridays my day….days where I don’t just do housework and shopping, days when I can sew or do sport or relax and read a book with no guilt whatsoever. Whether that’s something I can actually do, I don’t know, but I’d like to give it a try.

A question to finish for those of you who do juggle work and family successfully…..what advice would you give someone in my situation?

Have a great weekend,


15 Responses to “Utterly hopeless”

  1. Susan Says:

    Well, it’s been a while since I was a working Mom, but I do remember that I had to create white space for myself. Nothing on the agenda, just down time.

    A commitment to reserve it – of course a lot of effort was required to not let chores encroach that time.

    I found that it was best to leave the house — a walk, a leisurely cup of coffee at a coffee house (my favorite treat for myself, with a book) – or else I became sidetracked by the endless “to-do’s”

    Be kind to yourself during this time of transition. šŸ™‚

    By the way, the socks look Wonderful! Have a blessed weekend.

    P.S. a verse comes to mind: the comforting one in Proverbs: trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your path.

  2. MelD Says:

    A good excuse to meet up and knit on a Friday?! šŸ˜‰

  3. Gertie Says:

    I wish I could help but I found that I couldn’t juggle work and family successfully – then when daughter #2 came along it was game over as it was back to square 1. Now I am in the position where I am contemplating work again but am stumped as to how I would fit in the school run at 9 and 3. So I am watching your experience with interest – ultimately I do want to work again but I don’t want to find that I am falling between two stools again.

    PS the socks are so funky!

  4. Katy Says:

    Well I told you to employ the children, but beyond that…

    BTW, I still think you missed out on a fashion opportunity with those socks šŸ˜‰

  5. CarlaHR Says:

    Helen, I think you are on the right track – make Friday “Helen’s Day” and only do the things you like or feel like doing. Your kids are old enough to help out around the house so don’t be afraid to assign them some tasks.
    A simple trick is just to let things slide a bit – the house does not need to be spotless and not all meals need to be cooked from scratch.
    Good luck!!!

  6. diane stanley Says:

    I’ve never understood how women can juggle the working mom and home thing so I am no help. When I did work it was for my husband and only a day or two a week. It was incredibly hard, but I was able to take off when ever I needed to because I “knew” the boss. I wish you a lot of luck in figuring it out.

  7. Flying Blind Says:

    Yep good luck – definitely your kids can help out, I can’t wait for mine to be that old!
    I work 4 days per week between the school runs, so my mid-week day off is mine; I can cram in cleaning etc on Friday afternoon & Saturday Morning and do the main food shopping first thing on a Sunday. It works, but be prepared for a couple of evenings a week where you just can’t be bothered to move after 7pm!

  8. Jane Says:

    I wish I had words of wisdom – but I don’t – I’m still trying to figure it out. Somedays (most days) I don’t feel as if I do either job well, and I hate being the grumpy cross Mum. This year though I am determined to improve – the key being getting enough sleep, and then finding some time for exercise – I’ll move forward from there. Be kind to yourself – don’t expect yourself to be superwoman – you wouldn’t expect it of anyone else. Definitely make sure you have time to do things important to you on Fridays.

  9. Annabella Says:

    Oh I really sympathize Helen – I don’t seem to get everyhting done and I don’t work! I really hope you can manage your down time so that you can enjoy it šŸ™‚

  10. Catherine Says:

    As you say, the answer is to remember you can’t do everything. I don’t know how old your kids are but get them to help too. My two have helped since I can remember, washing up, sorting the washing and the occasional meal etc. They don’t always want to do it, but as I point out to them, nor do I! And remember that housework, ironing etc will always be there for another day!

  11. Lynley Says:

    I don’t work Wednesdays and Fridays, so have school hours free on those days. Wednesday is “me day” and I do whatever I want, even if it’s absolutely nothing. Or even sometimes it’s cleaning something out. And then Fridays are for chores and errands. I’ve found that the useful bit mentally is actually the Friday – I don’t freak out about the things that need to be done, because I can say “that’s a Friday job”, put it on the list, and forget about it until then. Of course washing and cooking and taxi service is every day šŸ™‚

  12. Leanne Says:

    Well, I think you can do it all but you need to be less worried about being super mom and just be happy regular mom. I hired a stupendous woman who helps to clean once a week, and it changed everything, and she also helps with laundry on the afternoon she is here (which is Saturday as she works as a full time nanny too, thus being fine with messy kids and a busy household). I do agree that you need time for yourself, if you can set aside one day that would be excellent, I try instead for an hour or so every evening. Oh, and enlist help from the family, my guy does almost all of the cooking and grocery shopping, the kids sometimes help with clearing the snow and such – I am working on getting them to do more.

  13. Mary Says:

    Sounds like you know what you need to do. Get the kids to help – I get mine to load/unload the dishwasher and other small things each day. Accept that the housework may not get done to exactly your old standard, but the important stuff will get done. I don’t get a whole day to myself but I try and make sure there are a couple of evenings a week where I do no housework, and I try and get out one evening a week to meet up with friends. Good luck, you’ll get there!

  14. Steph Says:

    It’s taken me about a month to knit one sock. Rattling off a pair as you have in a week on top of working and domestic goddessing is nothing short of amazing! Do hope the migraine clears quickly.

  15. Tanya Says:

    I have no useful tips at all, or I would also be employing them!! Although there are two things I aways think….. when there are gaps of time for me I do absolutely what I want to do (not what I should be doing), hence a lot of sewing and not ironing when little-un is asleep. And secondly, no-one ever looks back on their life and says ‘I wish I’d cleaned up more’, so I always think what are the things I want to look back and be pleased I did with my days??