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Monday, April 28th, 2014

At the moment I seem to have reached one of those times in life where there is just never a free moment. Everywhere I look there is stuff that needs my attention, and sometimes all I can honestly manage is knitting socks!

If I’m honest, it’s all a bit much.

I’m trying to take baby steps and do something every day that makes me feel that I’ve achieved something. Today after work, (which finished a little earlier than usual because it was a public holiday) I called my mother’s doctor’s practice in England to check that we are all on the same page about her health and after dinner I made two bee blocks for Annabella  (which was actually the most enjoyable part of my day). I’ll try to make a photo of them in the next couple of days…when it stops raining and there is actually some light!

I also said no to something that a friend was asking me to do…..and which I secretly thought might break the camel’s back. Being able to say no gracefully and without feeling bad about it is something I’m starting to learn as I get older. I take the sinking feeling that forms in the pit of my stomach as the clue that I have to decline. I find it a hard thing to do because I naturally like to help people, but I’ve said yes too many times and then have ended up stressed and resentful not to have finally learned that ‘it’s OK to say no’! It’s a woman thing, isn’t it?

On a happier note, the clematis montana is flowering in my window box and I thought you might like to see it. The flowers are beautiful, the house, no, not so much! But it’s living proof that the winter really is over and spring is here.

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More soon I hope. One day at a time!

Helen

 

9 Responses to “Day by day”

  1. jan - isisjem Says:

    The saying ‘no’ thing is definitely a woman thing. But liberating when you do. Your clematis looks lovely!

  2. helenjean Says:

    yeah to knitting socks, my new love. I hate saying no also but sometimes you have too

  3. Lush Says:

    I think learning to say no comes to us once we reach 50. It’s kind of like we have a collective thought of “OMG I only have so many days left & I need them ALL for me!!”.
    I still struggle. Have not been in my sewing room other than to hang washing for several months now. Going to try to do 15 minutes before I go to bed. After I take care of some emails for my son of course. Baby steps.
    Love the clematis, have just bought my first ever, need to get a pot now.

  4. Katy Says:

    Ah yes, the eventual need to say ‘no’. On the plus side, it feels rather liberating afterwards, and becomes easier as time goes on!

  5. diane stanley Says:

    saying no is one of my favorite things. Rock on sista!

  6. Leanne Says:

    This sounds good, it is hard to say no but a good thing to do.

  7. Thimbleanna Says:

    What a beautiful clematis! I love seeing the picture too — it reminds me so much of the houses in Germany that I loved. Oh, how I wish those rolladen shades were common here in the states.

    I learned how to say no years ago when I worked for weeks on a surprise baby shower. I made the food, decorated the cake, made baby gifts and gifts for all attending, cleaned the house, etc., etc., etc., and then …. the mother-to-be didn’t show up! I laughed at Lush’s comment — I’m feeling just as she said — only so many more days left and I need them for ME LOL!!!

    Hang in there — and Just Say No!!!! ;-D

  8. CarlaHR Says:

    Just keep on saying NO unless it is something you really want to do and under no circumstances feel guilty about it. I only wish that I could practice what I preach on a more regular basis.

  9. shelleyinct Says:

    Hang in there Helen! Good for you for knowing when you need to say no. When my kids were younger and I was more involved in the school and all their activities, My husband was always telling me, “Just say no!” Glad you’re at least able to fit in a little knitting and quilting to keep your juices flowing and help maintain sanity.