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Christmas is over

Sunday, January 3rd, 2016

DH and I have been quietly pottering along taking down the Christmas decorations this morning and dismantling the tree. The purist in me wanted to leave everything up until 12th Night, but the realist won the argument, as once we are back at work tomorrow we will have less time and will be dragging the tree up the garden in the dark. Not to mention that my angel cleaning lady comes on Wednesday and it would be much easier for her to hoover round with all the clutter out of the way.

It’s always a bit of a sad job. Another Christmas over. Maybe the last one where my mother will be able to travel over to see us. But on the other hand, it was, on the whole, successful and a job well done. The stress beforehand was worth it …..(I think….probably….)

The wonderful thing about having put everything away and tidied up is the sense of space and freshness that goes with it. I will try to buy myself a bunch of tulips this week to brighten things up and give us a sign of spring – but as winter hasn’t even got going this year yet, real spring seems a long way away and it’s certainly still very dark in the morning when we get up.

I’ve avoided calling mum this weekend. She doesn’t remember if I’ve called or not and conversation seems limited these days to the weather she can see out of her window. She won’t have done the things she was supposed to have done as regards giving me information to finalise all the house sale details and I know my blood pressure will only go shooting up again, which I can live without. (I am however immensely thankful that I moved her into her wonderful retirement living complex last May. That was my project for 2015. She didn’t want to go – but is very contented there now – and I see how much harder it would have been if I had left it another year. I’m glad I trusted my instincts on that one!)

There is more than enough stress anyway today in trying to get DD2 out of bed to work on a university application personal statement that should (I now discover) have been given to her school on 7th December…..She flies back to England tomorrow, so it has to be done today. Co-operation is zero and it is anything but ready to go.

I’m really feeling the sandwich generation problems. Add the menopause and stress at work and I get a rather black vision of what 2016 may hold…..

Onwards and upwards then ladies. I suspect many of you out there may be faced with similar issues. Really not a bundle of laughs…

Helen

 

8 Responses to “Christmas is over”

  1. Amy at love made my home Says:

    No, no bundle of laughs, but it sounds as though you are dealing with it as best you can and that is all that you can ask of yourself and that anyone else can ask of you. So keep going! My words for this year, as last, are onwards, upwards, positive, stronger and let it go. I have to repeat them a lot to myself, but it does help and you do have to let things go sometimes if you can for the bigger battles that need fighting. We are de decorating today, gosh, isn’t it hard work! I am sure that it takes longer than putting it up which is crazy as packing to go away on holiday takes longer than the packing to come home and that is effectively what we are doing isn’t it. Oh well! Onwards we head! I hope that 2016 will be an easier year for you. xx

  2. Leanne Says:

    I wish you a great new year, and I hope you have time for many laughs in between the challenges of those you love. It seems to me to be the only way to manage, especially with the teenagers.

  3. Ailsa Says:

    I feel for you. I am slightly in front of you – through the menopause although the night sweats are fantastic!, kids gone but worrisome, Dad died last year but still looking after Mum. All good fun!

    Don’t forget yourself and do the odd thing for yourself and always have something to look forward to!

  4. Diane stanley Says:

    I’m in that sandwich with you. Sometimes I dread calling or visiting my mum. But then I try to remember the mom I used to know who would dig ditches for me, crawl through snakes and do anything to make things right for our family. That’s the mom I’m calling and I have to remember that. Sending you a hug and happy new year wishes.

  5. swissrose Says:

    Yep, same here. I reckon “onwards and upwards” has to continue to be the phrase of the year, but also “take time to smell the roses” – especially if 2016 goes by anything like as fast as 2015 did 😮
    (ps as madness is already setting in, please send Feb possibilities!!! :o)

  6. Julie B. Says:

    Helen,

    You have a lot on your plate. And for a truly creative soul, full plates can get to be too much. I know you are so capable and whoever you are serving is blessed, but I hope 2016 brings you more space, more time to create, time to savor and walk and breathe deeply. You are such a wonderful person. I’d bring you tea and a meal if I could! xoxo

  7. Kathryn Says:

    Yes, the sandwich stage is tough. I keep having to remind myself that my mother as she was would have been horrified at some of the things she has said and done in old age. Things are much easier now than they were a year or two ago so I am grateful for that. I hope you managed to drag the personal statement out of DD. I had the opposite problem – DD getting over stressed about it. I lost count of the number of revisions. Fortunately all done now, offers received and firm and reserve choices made. Now there is just the stress of getting the required grades to go through. And coursework traumas. Glad I have an 8 year break to recover before DD3 gets to this stage!

  8. Thimbleanna Says:

    How lovely to see two new posts from you in this new year! I completely sympathize with you on the mother front. I love my mother dearly but … if they just wouldn’t be SO stubborn! It’s amazing to me the things that she believes are happening in her world — even though they’re far from reality. Hopefully all your legal issues will settle soon — and then, hopefully, lots easier.

    Considering that you live in one of my dream places in this world, I can’t wait to see where your dream places take you. I do hope you’ll blog about them — a lot!

    Happy New Year!