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A funny old week

Friday, July 27th, 2012

It’s been a strange week, this week. Cool and windy to start with and now insanely hot. We started out with a fair bit of sightseeing and have slowly but surely ground to a halt. A trip to the village to drink Latte Machiatto with the old men in a street cafe and buy Bistecca Fiorentina to take home are about all we’ve managed today. The pool is a blissful relief and I’ve finished reading the last of the three books I brought with me. The evening will be filled with packing, dinner locally and trying to watch the Olympics opening ceremony on a satellite system that only seems to pick up Al Jazeera, Bagdahd and Yemeni TV and other assorted unidentifiable arab stations.

For the most part the teenagers have been reasonable. We left them to their own sunbathing devices much of the time because it really wasn’t worth the effort to try to drag them off with us sightseeing. There is a limit to how much moaning and muttering I want to deal with.

On Tuesday I heard from a friend that my dear friend M had died in the night. Not unexpected and in many ways a blessed relief having battled cancer for 9 years, but I’ve spend my week trying to imagine life without her. She was one of those friends who was big in every sense of the word and in the last few years when she wasn’t very mobile I’ve spent a lot of time with her. For the last month I’ve been at the hospice every second afternoon watching the slow physical decline, but an undimmed spirit. Her last words when I left last Thursday and told her I’d be back this Sunday to see her were: ‘Well if I’m not here, you know where I am’. Said with a wry smile. And that is how I’ll remember her.

So tomorrow I’ll drive back north to the Alps and home. I’ve missed my sewing and knitting. I’ve even missed weeding the garden. It was lovely to have a break and see something new, but I’ve promised myself that next week is going to be a sewing week. The teenagers are off to visit their adopted granny at the Bodensee and hubby is motorbiking in the Alsace. I shall be at home being quietly contented šŸ™‚

Helen

13 Responses to “A funny old week”

  1. Kathy E. Says:

    Isn’t it funny how wonderful it is to get back to “normal” when vacation is over? Have a wonderful week sewing… I know you will have something wonderful to share with us at the end.

  2. Tanya Says:

    Wow what a week. It sounds lovely and emotional and tiring and different to the regular week, and I am very very envious of your description of next week!!! x

  3. Julie Says:

    I am sorry about your friend, Helen. She was blessed to be loved and remembered by you. I’m glad you’ve had the chance to be in Italy, and hope your trip and your time home are perfect. It has been so hot here too. Today is the first day we opened windows and turned off the air conditioning in weeks. xxoo

  4. Katy Says:

    Aww, sorry to hear about M, but glad she’s not in pain any more. Enjoy your ‘you’ week next week!

  5. Gertie Pye Says:

    So sorry to hear about your friend Helen šŸ™ hope that next week brings you peace on many levels x

  6. Vreni Says:

    Oh Helen, I’m so sorry about your friend. Even when it is expected, it still hits hard when it eventually does happen. Enjoy your solitary week and I’m looking forward to hearing and seeing what you’ve been up to.

  7. Chris in South Jersey Says:

    Sorry for your troubles. She just be a thought away.

  8. Betty van Os Says:

    That’s a nice thing to say Chris (in South Jersey): she’s just a thought away.
    That’s so true!
    All the best Helen xx

  9. Leanne Says:

    I am so sorry for your loss Helen, I expect she will always be in your heart and in your memories.

  10. MelD Says:

    So sorry about M but hope it was peaceful in the end. Perhaps it’s just as well that you have a few days away to get over the initial sadness, but it will be very strange for you when you get back. All the best to her family and I hope you manage another quiet week at home to deal with the emotions that go with grief. Big hug X

  11. claudia@machen und tun Says:

    Helen, so sorry for your loss!! i feel for you..

  12. Lush Says:

    I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your friend. It sounds like she had reconciled herself fairly well & still had a wonderful sense of humour.
    I think it a blessing that you will have a week to yourself with no real distractions to reflect & remember her. In our busy lives we do not often get that chance to take that time anymore & I think we are a lesser society for that lack.
    I love the thought that our loved ones are only a thought away no matter where they are.
    Warm regards & cyber hugs
    Lush x

  13. diane stanley Says:

    I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I know what you mean by a blessed relief. Whenever I hear about someone dying I usually hear of someone who just found out they are expecting a baby…and such is life. It goes on. My sincere sympathy for your loss.