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Simple Things

Friday, April 18th, 2014


If truth be told, there is way too much going on in my life at the moment. Mostly worrying things over which I have only limited control, but where I would/will be the person picking up the pieces when all goes pear-shaped. There are an awful lot of health, family, school, work things which are sitting over my head like a big black cloud that is about to explode.

Surprisingly it isn’t getting me down too much. I seem to have absorbed a lot of my husband’s attitude towards life over the last 25 years: a problem is only a problem when it really is a problem. Until then put it out of your mind, because it may never happen. So no running through what if scenarios in the wee early hours and not being able to sleep because it. is. all. just. too. much.

Maybe I’m sticking my head in the sand.

But it seems to be what I need to do to get through all this and keep my sanity.

I’m taking one day at a time. Doing something about the things where I can actually do something and putting everything I can’t control to one side. I’m taking time to enjoy the simple things. The spring flowers in the garden, having a laugh with my lovely work colleagues, running and doing yoga. It makes me feel like my feet are firmly on the ground and I’m as ready as I can be to deal with what life throws at me…..but only when it actually does.

It’s the life of the middle-aged woman I suppose. It comes to us all.

Now I’m off to Newcastle to see my mother and to take my 15 year old to his first Premier League football match. I hope we win, but we’ve been rubbish lately, so it’s possible that the highlight of the trip will not be St James’ Park erupting with joy, but rather eating fish and chips out of the paper at the fish quay.

Happy Easter!


13 Responses to “Simple Things”

  1. Katy Says:

    Hope you enjoy your trip home and that the big black cloud doesn’t start pishing down on you any time soon!

  2. Leanne Says:

    Your husband’s approach is the best one, I sure try to do that too. I love your garden, full of promise of more flowers to come. I hope you and son have a great time and that the visit is lovely. Happy Easter to you.

  3. Kathryn Says:

    What a sensible approach. I’m in a similar place, though quite a number of things have already exploded and I have limited ability to clear up the mess. I wish I had managed to have the sense to set the things I could do nothing about to one side instead of driving myself mad over them. Must try to cultivate this mind set! Hope the football doesn’t turn out too disappointing.

  4. CarlaHR Says:

    Here’s hoping you enjoy joy your trip and that your team wins.
    If sticking your head works so much the better.
    Happy Easter.

  5. Annabella Says:

    Oh Helen, sorry to hear there’s lots of life going on. Hope you’re okay…I adhere to your husband’s attitude too and I believe there’s always a way through things. Enjoy your trip, Happy Easter and sending a big hug.

  6. Donna Says:

    I know how you feel. I have to stand by and be strong . To think of it, I don’t think I should have control. Time does heal.
    Chin up to all of us.
    Let’s enjoy today and think good thoughts.

  7. Paige Sato Says:

    for years and years I’ve simmered while my husband doesn’t let things get to him (at least in the same way they get to me). Now I’m trying to absorb more of that attitude, because when I look back, most of those issues that caused sleepless nights and tons of worry never escalated into anything big. I only wish it hadn’t taken me this long to figure it out!

  8. Lush Says:

    Life can really be shit at times eh? Here’s hoping that at least the football team come through for you. Thinking of you & sending good thoughts & remember if you can’t hang in there, see if the noose fits someone else 🙂
    Lush x

  9. Catherine Says:

    Hope you enjoy your trip over Helen, and I hope nothing comes of your worries

  10. MelD Says:

    Here’s to life…!! 😮

    Men – actually often get it right!! lol

    All the best over Easter and enjoy those fish’n’chips… x

  11. Susan Says:

    Hope you had a good time in Newcastle and that you got to Longsands. Big hug and so pleased that you are dealing with all the stressy stuff better. Hope as much as can come good does.

  12. Elisabeth Says:

    That is a great way to approach things. Also, don’t forget don’t forget to breathe from time to time 😉
    I hope you have a great time and Newcastle. Happy Easter to you and your family!

  13. Diane stanley Says:

    Learning that you can’t control everything and everyone is a hard lesson but one I too have had to accept. Good luck with your mom and enjoy the time spent with your son.